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Communication Styles

There are four main styles!

Knowing your communication style can be extremely helpful in growing your skills and building better relationships with your peers. And, the more you’re able to recognize these styles, the more you’ll be able to see them and adapt to different conversations.

There are 4 core types of conversation styles.


  • indifferent

  • “go with the flow” type of attitude

  • usually, fail to express their own needs or feelings

  • inability to say no

  • “people pleaser” type

  • avoid confrontation at all costs

  • poor posture/lack of eye contact


  • tend to “dominate” the conversation

  • “me, me, me”

  • loud and demanding tone

  • poor listening to others

  • tend to talk over others

  • aggressive body language (pointing fingers, staring intently, lack of personal space, etc)

  • can be hostile or threatening

  • wants to “win” every conversation


  • combines both aspects of the previous styles

  • passive on the surface, aggressive underneath

  • difficulty acknowledging their underlying anger

  • words don’t align with actions

  • facial expressions don’t match words

  • may sabotage behind people’s backs or use vindictive ways to “get back” at someone

  • aware of their needs, but have trouble articulating them

  • can start rumours or gossip

  • tends to be a very toxic style


  • thought to be the most effective style

  • aim for both sides to win

  • can express their own needs while being considerate of others’

  • “I” statements

  • encourages open, honest dialogue

  • balanced conversation

  • relaxed body language

  • ability to say “no” and set healthy boundaries

There is also a fifth style listed on some sites called the Manipulative style. These people will do whatever it takes to get their way. Cunning and deceitful, they rarely say what they mean. They often prioritize their own needs above everyone else, but instead of just outright saying it (like the aggressive style), they do it in a sneaky, roundabout way. They end up becoming very difficult to trust, so this isn’t a suggested style to adopt.